it happened again.

i had another desperately sad deja vu this week when a wonderful,  gorgeous, funny, nice guy i work with asked about my boyfriend and when i said  i had nothing, he couldn’t believe it.  he was shocked that i’m single and told me that all the guys on his team think i’m the coolest.  he couldn’t imagine a world in which i was single.  if he wasn’t engaged…

it wasn’t sleazy, and i know he meant it as a compliment, but i really hate it when they say that.

but, it’s not just me. 

a lovely, fun and beautiful friend of mine, ms. savory, has had her share of troubles.  she was telling me just last night that she met this funny, nice guy who was pursuing her.  they had talked about maybe taking a next step towards exclusivity and after spending a few fun and margarita filled hours with me at our hell’s kitchen local discussing rimmers with our flirty, friendly, irish bartender, she went off to meet him so they could make the advances they’d discussed.

fast forward to this morning.  i receive a text from ms. savory:

last night he asked me if i wanted to be exclusive and take the next step.  i said yes.  then he said his ex moved back on tuesday and they’re giving it another shot.

no shit.

i mean what the?  why’d he ask? 

me confused.


6 Responses to “it happened again.”

  1. 1 heartgnosis 22 June, 2007 at 22:05

    Man, I hate situations like that. Sounds like he’s too weak to say what he wants and needed her to show her hand before he’d be willing to lay down his cards. Sounds like it’d be better for her to avoid a guy like that, you know? Maybe he’s not a terrible person and it’s understandable people sometimes want an ex back, but at the same time he clearly asked her if she wanted to be exclusive so it’s almost like he looked forward to crushing her feelings.

    Ghey :/

  2. 2 ms. savory 23 June, 2007 at 17:39

    It was like a dirty trick. So bizzare.

    Is BMW a redhead?? Maybe they really are the same guy…

  3. 3 isosceles 23 June, 2007 at 17:42

    nope, bmw has light brown hair. which is worse, because that means there are multiple of them.

  4. 4 santoki 25 June, 2007 at 12:18

    I have given up on trying to figure out the machinations of a-holes. They operate in their own universe.

    As to your buddy from work? I can’t help but roll my eyes. Seriously, if all the guys on his team think you are the bomb-diggity, why is brother man not hooking a sista up? Did he call dibs or what? And what makes him so certain that if he wasn’t engaged, you would be at all interested? Cojones.

  5. 5 isosceles 25 June, 2007 at 14:06

    i would be hella interested, actually. the reason brother is not hooking a sista up, i’d wager, is that they all live in cleveland and you KNOW i’m not up for that and b) they all get married out there at like 22 and have 7 kids already… so no dice.

  6. 6 santoki 25 June, 2007 at 15:12

    Damn girl! I was tryin to be all hatin on the playa. 😉

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